Meal times conversation

Hi, this is Michele. I have some thoughts about the meal time routine and sign ups.  It was brought up in a few conversations today that trying to be with mom during these specific meal times may be frustrating for all.  Our experience is that she refuses the food at these specific times and wants it saved and re-heated at a later point.  I think because she frequently refuses the food at these specific times that the nurse and physical therapist go ahead and do their treatments during her meal times instead.  I am going to go down there in the morning and talk schedule with people in charge.  I am going to suggest that they bring her food tray and leave it at those times and to not do any treatments for at least an hour after the meal.   She should be eating every 4 - 4.5 hours anyway and not refusing food, and expecting the aide to remember to continue to ask her if she wants it and then re-heat old food.  I'll also let her know people want to come during her meal times to help, but we have limited time and can't be there for several hours waiting for her appetite to come around.  Please leave comments and share your thoughts.

Meeting Minutes from 2/4/2012 Meeting

Hello Everyone!!

Here are the results of the meeting last night, at some point I kind of stopped taking notes because there were too many conversations going at once, but I think I got the gist.

 

Background- Last Thursday 2/2/12 there was a meeting with the staff of Stonebridge and Michele, David & Michael regarding Grandma's care and next steps. Essentially the physical therapist is in charge of determining her progress. As long as her progress is positive  she will stay until she gets to her optimum level of ability, at which time a decision as to where she goes from there needs to be made. If she  levels out or if her progress begins to decline, she will need to leave, at which time a deision needs to be made as to where she goes from there. They are anticipating within 2 weeks, being able to determine what to expect from her and be able to make a decision about her future. We are currently beginning the 2nd week. David is pretty sure that she is aware she will not be coming home and sleeping in the recliner, using the toilet in the living room and relying on family care as the primary source. He has had this conversation with her on at least 3 different occasions.

 

Much time was spent convincing David to get a new phone, he will be going to get a new phone ASAP.

 

Next Item: Grandma's Schedule vs. Family Availability. There is a need to streamline when people will be up there, and a way to coordinate our schedules, so that there are not large groups at one time (unless they want to be there) and everyone can have a sense of who is where when... Ken, Kelly & Kitt are researching blogs and schedule websites that we can use to help streamline this process

 

Grandma's really needs someone with her at each meal time, to help motivate her to eat. ***If you are unable or don't want to do the date and time that you signed up for, contact David.

 

Breakfast: 7:30 AM

Lunch: 12:00 PM

Dinner: 5:00 PM

David wants to do morning breakfasts

 

Sun 2/5/12

B: David

L: Kitt

D: Sherry (if available)

 

Mon 2/6/12

B: David

L: Kelly

D: Rachel

 

Tues 2/7/12

B: David

L: Open (anyone interested?)

D: Kitt

 

Weds 2/8/12

B: David

L: Mike

D: Open (anyone interested?)

Thursday 2/9/12

B: David

L: Anthony

D: Open (anyone interested?)

 

Friday 2/10/12

B: David

L: Open (anyone interested?)

D: Open (anyone interested?)

 

Saturday 2/11/12

B: David

L: Estherlene & Mike

D: Kitt

 

Sunday 2/12/12

B: David

L: Michele

D: Sherry (if available)

 

Monday 2/13/12

B: David

L: Kelly

D: Open (anyone interested?)

 

 

Another suggestion was the offer of cooking food either for Grandma, for David and Danny, or for anyone in the family who might need it... It was decided to drop off dishes to the main house and coordinate that with David... suggestions for food were: Soups or casseroles that can be frozen.

 

People willing to cook:

 

Esterlene & Mike

Anna & Anthony

Kitt

Robert

 

Next item: how to keep Richard & his family in the loop. It was suggested by Ken and Kelly to develop a family blog that is private, and that we can all update and use to communicate. Kelly & Ken are researching options.

 

Finally, it was decided that a smaller meeting of David, Michael and Michele, would meet at 2 pm on Monday to discuss the financial aspects of grandma's estate, and to organize how to get information regarding nursing homes, vs. group homes, and also what resources Hospice Care offers.

 

Please feel free to add any information that you would like to share, I'm sure I missed some stuff.

 

Good Meeting guys! :-)

 

Kitt